I think “overwhelming” would be the best way to describe becoming a dad to a baby girl. Don’t get me wrong, it’s been an incredible blessing and so cool to gain new perspectives in life. Every day there is something new — each day I’m trying to improve on how to be a better parent, locking down routines and finding creative ways to excel. It can be easy to fall into the trap of complacency — just doing what works — but the competitive side of me always wants to find a better way. The best way.
I’m learning a lot about what not to do. A big one is to not grow angry. I find myself getting worked up much quicker than I’d like. In these moments, I find quick prayers to ask God for patience and a calm for my soul. I know this little kid is just so raw in the world; I might know how to navigate my day but she doesn’t. Whether I’m waking up with her in the middle of the night or trying to calm her after hours of screaming instead of napping during the day, I need patience.
It’s amazing for me to watch my wife, Olivia — my best friend — in her new role as a mom. When you’ve been with someone for so long and know them better than anyone else, you think you know every aspect of them. But then to see her turn on a whole other gear — having a child is hard, but she makes it look so easy. I feel like she’s been given a gift from God to transition into motherhood so smoothly. It’s my role to lead her and our family well, but in this stage of life we’re in, I’m learning so much from her. I’m just trying to harness her success and make it my own.
Having our daughter, Lyla, definitely brings a whole new meaning of the word “father” for me. Until you are given a tangible example of how much God loves His children, by becoming a father for yourself, it seems impossible to grasp His love for us. And it still is. When I pause and think about why Lyla is here and how she is here, I’m awestruck. I still haven’t grasped the depth of the Father’s love for us and I know I will never be able to. It is true what many have told me: “You don’t understand how much you can love something until you have a child.” That statement holds a lot of weight.
More than anything, I want Lyla to understand that I’m going to make mistakes. I’m going to fall short in a lot of ways. Whether I mess up in big ways or small, she will always know she is loved and that her daddy will always be there for her. I want her to understand that this love comes from Jesus Christ. I don’t know how long it will take for her to be able to grasp this, but I hope that through consistent, everyday parenting — by my actions and my words — I can showcase the Father’s love for her. I hope to pave a straight and narrow path for her to walk on, so she too can follow Jesus.
— Luke Weaver, Arizona Diamondbacks pitcher
Luke Weaver is a regular contributor to The Increase, providing monthly articles and opinions. Check out Luke’s Increase profile here: https://theincrease.com/author/luke-weaver/
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