The Call to Step Up as Parents - Ryan Hollingshead

It’s so sad to hear of the increase in domestic violence and child abuse that has happened during the quarantine. Now more than ever, there is such a great need for kids to know the love and care of parents. They need a home where they can feel loved and known. Having two kids of our own and a foster baby who joined us in February, we are loving our family time together. 

As parents, we’ve all been there; we’ve all been to the point in our patience capacity when we think we’re going to snap. To say that we haven’t would not be honest, and we all know it. But it’s still shocking to me how parents are acting. In these times, you need to figure out what you’re going to do, whether that’s to walk out of the room for a moment or turn on a show so you can have a moment to yourself. There are so many ways to handle it. Violence is never the answer. 

Many parents are finding themselves with their kids way more than usual, since they are working from home while their kids are learning at home. It’s overwhelming; it’s a lot of adjusting and a lot of work, but it’s not your kids’ fault. They don’t understand what’s going on; they didn’t cause the coronavirus. As believers, and even for those who aren’t, we have an innate ability and responsibility to care for and love our children. 

What a beautiful opportunity this is to work on patience and long-suffering in our parenting! It’s time to parent, not for our own comfort or pleasure, but for the character of our kids and ourselves. Parenting for character instead of comfort is a game-changer. We are not meant to just get through the day, but to teach our kiddos to be more like Jesus. Our kids need to learn what it’s like to have true character — to love their neighbors. 

This doesn’t mean this time isn’t hard; it is. But the call of every Christ-following parent is to step up and love their children as Christ loves us. Lean on the grace, mercy and strength He provides. 

— Ryan Hollingshead, FC Dallas midfielder/defender

Ryan Hollingshead is a regular contributor to The Increase, providing articles and opinions. Check out Ryan’s Increase profile here

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