Upgrade - Don Davis

I am probably one of the most impatient people on the planet. I don’t like waiting in lines, I can’t stand getting stuck behind slow drivers, slow customer service anywhere is enough to send me into a tailspin, and I really despise it when I’m trying to Google something and the device I’m using doesn’t produce the information in a timely fashion. I get particularly frustrated when my cell phone starts buffering and my screen has that circle that just keeps spinning for what feels like an eternity.  


Such was the case last week. It seemed that every time I went to use my cell phone, it wasn’t working. It’s times like this that my mind begins to think about changing to another carrier, or at least get rid of my Android and upgrade to an iPhone. After a few days of hearing me complain about my phone, my wife suggested that I take it up to the phone experts at the store and see if they could fix it. I decided to take her advice—even though I really didn’t think they were going to be able to do anything to help me. Well, after about an hour in the store, my phone was working like new. The tech that worked on my phone simply reset the network.  


Many people tend to treat their marriages this way. As soon as our spouse doesn’t say the right thing or do the right thing or otherwise fails to act the way we expect, we begin to complain a lot and may even start thinking about trading them in for someone new. It’s this “upgrade” mentality that advertisers market to us on a daily basis. The message is subtle but clear: “You deserve to be happy and if you aren’t happy then you should upgrade.” Not only can this mentality get you in trouble financially, it is a disaster if applied to your marriage.  


“‘Haven’t you read,’ He [Jesus] replied, ‘that at the beginning the Creator “made them male and female,” and said, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh”? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.’” —Matthew 19:4-6


We are going to experience difficult times in our marriages because the Lord made us different, but what we cannot do is decide to give up and ”trade up” to someone new. Jesus Himself tells us that in this life we will have troubles, but be of good cheer, He has overcome the world!


“I have told you these things, so that in Me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” —John 16:33


I pray that if you are going through difficulty in your marriage right now—and this is causing you to think about trading in your spouse—you will take it to the marriage expert, the Lord Jesus Christ, and seek out Godly counsel. If you are committed to doing this, Jesus can upgrade your marriage without trading in your spouse.


—Don Davis


Don Davis is a regular contributor to The Increase, providing monthly articles and opinions.


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